One of the inevitable hurdles that we all have to overcome on the road to success is failure. Failure is something rarely talked about and yet it is a part of the journey to success. A friend once said ‘everyone wants to go to heaven, but no one wants to die’. I’ve been musing over this one for a while now and I thought I would put a different spin on it: everyone wants to be a success, but no one wants to fail in the process. We all want that straight perfect trajectory, yet the reality is a bunch of ups and downs, a jagged edged zigzag of a journey. Alot of what differentiates success stories is not the lack of failure, but success in spite of failure. To put it another way
The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall – Nelson Mandela
So how do we deal with failure?
1. Acknowledge your role in the failure – no blame game
The easiest thing to do when we fail is to blame others. And while someone else probably had some role to play in the process, ultimately our way of overcoming is to acknowledge our own personal role in it. You could blame the system, racism, sexism and any other -ism on the planet but in reality, you dis-empower yourself by doing that. If you keep holding on to the fact that the ‘system’ did it or your boss did it, or your parents or whomever, then you’ll never learn the invaluable lesson that that failure was there to teach you. A lot of the times we are just too proud to admit that we messed up. But remember pride comes before a fall. This is the yuckiest part but once you’re do so it gets better.
2. The 5 minute maximum pity party – 5MMPP Continue reading